Couples Treatment is
designed to help two individuals transform
their relationship into a lasting conscious
source of respect, joy, gratitude,
forgiveness, perseverance and wisdom to
build a constructive conflict style.
My role as a Couples Therapist is to
understand each of your desires, limits and
truth. The goal is to discover what is
causing the conflict and pain between the
two of you. This pain might take the form of
anger, sadness, fear, and feeling
misunderstood or invisible. Most
disagreements are rooted in fundamental
differences of personality, values and
inability to contain and think during
conflict. Sometimes a relationship cannot be
repaired. I can also assist you to find
acceptance and closure.
As trust is built, communication skills
will be taught that include the ability to
understand each other’s opinions, desires,
needs and ideas. These skills would include
being able to hear one another without
blame, threats or criticism.
The goal of treatment is to
learn how to replace criticism, withdrawal,
old behavior learned or modeled in childhood
or unfinished issues from past relationships
with conscious, respectful and connecting
behavior. The healing process includes
mutual growth, accountability, support and
a willingness to look at one's behavior that
has created suffering in one's relationship.
The most fundamental task with any couple is
the ability to communicate and listen
without reacting. The goal is to convert
pent up frustration, anger and sadness into
empathy and understanding.
Couples Treatment can offer you the “aha”
experience that love is kind and tolerant
of differences, and that each individual
has a responsibility for creating the
quality of their relationship. A healthy
partnership helps to create friendship,
security, intimacy and pleasure.